Counseling - Correcting Others from Love (Older Children)

Lead Question for each section

What stood out to you from the video segment? Any favorite quotes? Anything confuse you?

Supplemental QuestionsThe first few sections have to do with correcting in general. The last few clips have more to do with correcting kids.

Section 1 - HCSKL 2011 Day 7 (from 2:06:14 to 2:11:19) - What it means to speak truth from love...

2:06:15 - What's wrong with "setting someone straight"? It might feel good to a parent in the moment but what can that lead to in the child?

2:06:50 - Is the kind of love that Dan is speaking about something akin to sticking your head in the sand and pretending you don't see a problem? How and when do you address an issue?

2:07:10 - Besides "sowing a seed of truth," what else is usually a part of loving the person?

2:07:30 - What role does discernment play in this process?

2:08:20 - Rather than look to the other person's reaction, what should we look to in determining if we somehow messed up?

2:11:00 - Why can we be OK even if someone doesn't like us - especially after we have sown a seed of truth in their lives?

Section 2 - HCSKL 2011 Day 1 - (from 1:40:40 to 1:46:25) - Motive

1:41:10 - What does Dan mean by "because then it is just a right and wrong thing and there is very little grace on that"? What does it matter if there is "grace" on it? What does he mean by grace?

1:41:20 - Does real love "enable" or allow people to stay the same? Why or why not?

1:41:30 - What motive are we correcting our children from? What whose sake should we be correcting?

1:43:00 - Where have we gone wrong in discipline?

1:43:50 - What is involved in "restoring a brother"?

Section 3 - (3:22) - Motive of love

Why is right motive so important in correcting your kids?

What does Dan mean when he says that when you correct from the right motive, "grace is with what you are doing"? What does he mean by grace?

Section 4 - (2:18) - Stay in faith - No need to fall apart - Interceding - Declarations - Proclaim life

Why are we so wrecked when our children make poor decisions? How is that deception?

Instead of being wrecked how can we intercede for them? What does intercession from faith look like?

Section 5 - (:41) - Identity through kids

How can we tell if we are drawing identity through our kids and their lives lived?

What do we need to let go of? Our dream of how they would live? Our dream of who they would be? Our embarrassment at how their choices reflect on us?

What do we need to hang onto?